12-week online small group
Becoming Safe
Learn to feel steadier in yourself and become a safer person in your relationships.
Explore what happens in you when relationships become difficult, and practise ways to listen, communicate, respect boundaries and take responsibility for your impact on others.
Book a free introductory call30-minute Zoom conversation. No obligation to join.
Starts 2 and 3 December 2026 · 12 weeks · Maximum six participants in each group
What you'll explore and practise
Understanding a pattern can help, but it doesn't always make responding differently easier. When relationships become difficult, familiar emotional and physical responses may take over. Becoming Safe offers opportunities to recognise these responses and practise new ways of relating. We start with the body, and with learning what it means to feel safe yourself.
Developing steadiness within yourself
Learn to notice your nervous system responses and practise ways of staying present when emotions become difficult.
Becoming safer in relationships
Explore how you listen, communicate, navigate differences, respect boundaries and respond to another person's vulnerability.
Practising greater choice
Recognise familiar protective responses, understand their impact and practise taking responsibility and making repairs when necessary.
Along the way we work on questions like these.
- What is going on in me when my body tightens before I walk into a room, or before family arrives?
- How do I catch a warning sign earlier, and what do I do once I have?
- What do I do when I've hurt someone?
The group is open to adults. No previous experience with somatic practice is required, because I teach everything in the room.
30-minute Zoom conversation. No obligation to join.
What happens in a session?
Each session runs for 90 minutes with up to six people. It mixes guided body practice, time to reflect, and time to talk.
Ask on the free call about anything you want to know before you decide.
Is sharing optional?
I will go through this with you on the free call, so you know how it works before you decide.
Are there pairs or breakouts?
I will go through this with you on the free call, so you know how it works before you decide.
Is the camera on or off?
I will go through this with you on the free call, so you know how it works before you decide.
Are sessions recorded?
I will go through this with you on the free call, so you know how it works before you decide.
What happens if someone gets upset?
I will go through this with you on the free call, so you know how it works before you decide.
Who runs it
I'm Rudi Doku. My work is about what happens in the body, and between people, when relationships get difficult. I'm a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP) and a certified integral coach through New Ventures West, and I'm a teaching assistant with Somatic Experiencing International. I'm also trained in compassionate communication and dialogue, and in Internal Family Systems. I work with people one to one and in small groups, in Melbourne and online.
These comments come from my workshops and one to one work, not from this group.
“I loved the guided experience. Your gravitas and genuine care really create a wonderful opportunity for it.”
“You will learn how to observe yourself non-judgementally and choose to create peace.”
“There was enough space to process. I appreciated the pace of learning/experiencing.”
“I would say it is definitely worth it.”
“He is great to talk to, highly knowledgeable, skilful and empathic.”
What to expect
When and where
There are two online groups, so you can join the one that suits your time zone. Both meet live, weekly for twelve weeks, for 90 minutes.
Australia and New Zealand: Thursdays, 5:30pm to 7pm Melbourne time (7:30pm to 9pm in New Zealand), starting 3 December 2026.
North America: Wednesdays, 8pm to 9:30pm Eastern (5pm to 6:30pm Pacific), starting 2 December 2026.
Each group has six places. We run through the December and January holidays, with no break.
What it costs
Becoming Safe uses the Green Bottle sliding scale. You choose the amount that matches your financial situation, and nobody asks for proof. People who pay more make it possible for others to pay less. All participants receive the same twelve sessions. One community-supported place is available in each group. Amounts are in Australian dollars (A$) per month, for three months. The US dollar amounts are approximate, based on the exchange rate in November 2026.
Full bottle
A$420 a month
About US$287 a month. A$1,260 in total, about US$860.
For people with financial security or money to spare.
Half-full bottle
A$210 a month
About US$143 a month. A$630 in total, about US$430.
For people who meet their basic needs but watch the budget closely.
Near-empty bottle
A$70 a month
About US$48 a month. A$210 in total, about US$143.
For people facing real financial hardship. There is one of these places in each group.
The Green Bottle sliding scale was created by Alexis J. Cunningfolk.
Is this therapy?
This is a group program. It isn't therapy, and it doesn't replace therapy or support if you're in danger now. If that's your situation, say so on the free call and we'll talk about what support fits.
If you are in danger now, call emergency services: 000 in Australia, 111 in New Zealand, or 911 in the USA.
For family violence support, you can call any of these.
- Australia: 1800RESPECT, 1800 737 732
- New Zealand: Family Violence Information Line, 0800 456 450
- USA: National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE)
Questions people ask
Do I need any experience?
No. I teach everything in the room, so there is nothing to study beforehand.
What happens on the free call?
We talk about what's going on in your life right now and whether the group suits you. Booking a call doesn't commit you to anything.
How much personal information will I need to share?
This is a small group, and personal boundaries matter. The group agreement will explain what's expected of participants, and how privacy and confidentiality work, before you enrol. You can raise any concerns on the free call.
Is the group suitable for me right now?
The free call is a chance to talk through what the group focuses on and whether the format suits you. It isn't a clinical assessment or an emergency service.
What happens after I enquire?
You'll start with a free call with me. If the group suits you and a place is available, I'll explain the enrolment and payment arrangements before you commit.
Explore whether Becoming Safe is right for you
Book a free introductory call30-minute Zoom conversation. No obligation to join. Each group is limited to six, and the groups start on 2 and 3 December.